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shelfofawesome — Sat, 22 Sep 2012 06:13:22 -0400

Sluts

shelfofawesome — Sat, 21 Jul 2012 23:57:59 -0400

Double standards for women’s sexuality versus male’s sexuality are so awesome. Way to go keeping up the patriarchy and putting women like me in our places by calling us sluts in derogatory and demeaning ways, then telling us we have no respect for our bodies by being ‘sluts’ (regardless of our sexual past or actions) and then saying you’re awesome for being a “pimp” or a “stud” and having been with lots of girls.
Really. Good job.
A+ work.
And a special shout out to girls who use the word slut in a bad way. You get special points for being cool. ;)
If you don’t like it, or don’t respect me, you can walk away.
Signed,
A slut who is not ashamed
Peace out homies.

I'm leaving tumblr for a bit

shelfofawesome — Sat, 09 Jun 2012 14:56:36 -0400

I have to finish class and tumblr is something I stay on for hours and hours and I just cannot afford that right now. I just can’t.

So I’m gonna stay away for the most part.

If you like people to always be around and providing you with new content, it’s acceptable to unfollow.

I hope everyone is well, stays well, or gets well in the time I am gone (and beyond!)

Later, homies. I’ll miss you.

eridanamporass: friendly reminder that sollux captor is the...

shelfofawesome — Thu, 07 Jun 2012 01:16:10 -0400

eridanamporass:

friendly reminder that sollux captor is the best character in homestuck.

Cabradine: iwentnorthdowneasthastings: So,my government is making it incredibly...

shelfofawesome — Thu, 07 Jun 2012 01:14:25 -0400

Cabradine: iwentnorthdowneasthastings: So,my government is making it incredibly...:

iwentnorthdowneasthastings:

So,

my government is making it incredibly difficult to receive birth control yet expects me to not get an abortion when i accidentally become pregnant.

A lot of men will call me a slut if i DO happen to take birth control.

As a woman, i am expected to be a…

What a Good Pastor in Maryland!

shelfofawesome — Sat, 02 Jun 2012 15:18:34 -0400

What a Good Pastor in Maryland!:

I am super believing this guy would never hurt a homosexual (or bisexual like me!) because he seems super legit sorry that he was taken out of context because his ‘flesh’ likes the idea of killing us all! Awesome! :) Super legit awesome! Good thing he has a strong moral fibre though, and would never actually snap and kill as many of us as he could! ♥ awesome! LEGIT AWESOME! /teeth snap from gritting too hard/

"Someone handed me a sticker at a women’s rights march once. It said “I FUCK TO COME NOT TO..."

shelfofawesome — Mon, 28 May 2012 12:59:26 -0400

““Someone handed me a sticker at a women’s rights march once. It said “I FUCK TO COME NOT TO CONCEIVE.” I can’t find that sticker and I want it back! Because what’s been lost in this whirlwind of abstinence-only, married-only, straight-only nonsense is pleasure. I don’t know about you, but when I have sex it’s because it feels good, not because I’m gearing up to knit some booties.””

- Jessica Valenti. Author of Full Frontal Feminism. (via thatsillybrainofmine)

"In any case, if we buy into categories of sexual orientation based solely on gender-heterosexual,..."

shelfofawesome — Mon, 28 May 2012 12:57:15 -0400

“In any case, if we buy into categories of sexual orientation based solely on gender-heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual-we’re cheating ourselves of a searching examination of our real sexual preferences. In the same fashion, by subscribing to the categories based solely on the male/female binary, we cheat ourselves of a searching examination of our real gender identity.”

- Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women, and the Rest of Us (via queerandpresentdanger)

"I seldom raised my voice in protest [while my friends sexually harassed women] because I didn’t want..."

shelfofawesome — Mon, 28 May 2012 04:29:16 -0400

“I seldom raised my voice in protest [while my friends sexually harassed women] because I didn’t want to be uncool, to be perceived as ‘less of a man’ or challenged on why I found it necessary to defend women. This is what sociologist Michael Kimmel identifies as a deep form of homophobia: the fear that other men would challenge me, question my manhood, or even call me gay. This very fear led me to silently harass women and allow the others to vocally harass. I now realize that my worries of being pushed out my peer group could be tied to multiple forms of violence against women - when we create conditions where young men are constantly fighting other men to prove their manhood, what they will do to get props or accepted can escalate to dangerous levels. Ending gender-based violence is not about telling our sisters and daughters how to protect themselves, it should be about talking to our boys and men about we say to each other, what we allow to be said, and why we don’t stop when someone is being put in harm’s way.”

- DR. L’HEUREUX LEWIS (via msandrogynous)

kaxyz: yolo

shelfofawesome — Sun, 27 May 2012 23:19:00 -0400

kaxyz:

yolo

tsparks: faboomama: nezua: (via growingup) Double your...

shelfofawesome — Thu, 17 May 2012 02:01:10 -0400

tsparks:

faboomama:

nezua:

(via growingup)

Double your pleasure. Double your fun.

(via tsparks)

God damnit, Jesus, that’s not how you skateboard. You’re teaching these kids bad habits!!!

I just cannot. I cannot. I am SCREAMING! SCREAMING! /sobs...

shelfofawesome — Sat, 12 May 2012 17:43:28 -0400

I just cannot. I cannot. I am SCREAMING!

SCREAMING!

/sobs forever/

9gag: (via 9GAG - 10 Reasons to Ban Gay Marriage)

shelfofawesome — Sat, 12 May 2012 09:31:09 -0400

9gag:

(via 9GAG - 10 Reasons to Ban Gay Marriage)

I totally forgive Mitt Romney

shelfofawesome — Sat, 12 May 2012 04:58:49 -0400

andeliaworld:

He wrote about how he had to “apologize” for “several” of his classmates and himself finding a man in highschool, a Mr. Lauber, and holding him down and cutting his bleached blonde hair off. It wasn’t because of Mr. Lauber’s perceived homosexuality, no! It was just a few highschool “pranks and hijinks” that went too far. And you know how Jesus felt about long hair.

Oh Mitt Romney! Haha you’re so hilarious. I sure would have known how you meant those pranks to be perceived. And who could blame you 40 some years after the incidents where you physically assaulted that Mr. Lauber who was clearly asking for it with his non-conformity? It was clearly just a miscommunication and I’m sure he made certain to conform to the expected norms after that. You helped him socially!

Maybe he used his all-American charm to seduce that young slutty man, like in the bible! Samson and Delilah! Except homoerotic. Oh Mitt, following along in the Bible I see.

So I totally forgive him. He tried his best to help this young man, and now he’s just being torn down for it.

You know what you have to do when it’s all men. That’s just natural. I wonder what other things he did in that all male high school. I wonder what those pillowy lips that now wrap themselves around Conservative dogma once wrapped themselves around when he was surrounded by other young men.

And that comment where he shouted “Atta girll!” at another male student in the all male high school in Detroit? He wasn’t being homophobic. He was being trans* positive! Before his time, even! ^^ What a goooooood citizen.

Mitt Romney, if I wanted to be represented by Asshole-Americans, would be my go-to man! He would surely represent me the fullest. He’d keep my culture and viewpoints in mind and it would be lovely.

Unfortunately… ;; I’m a Liberal and he’s just an asshole who can go fuck off, male or female, for all I care. I’m young still, but I don’t think the horrific things that happened to ME in high school will be off my mind any time soon. Clearly, such was the case for Mr. Lauber. when you’re tossed down stairs like me, or held down and cut like Mr. Lauber, you don’t just forgive and forget.

You might forgive. But if your bully asshole classmates run for political office… You remember. You remember real well.

It's ironic that in order to combat gayness, Mitt Romney became a hairdresser.

shelfofawesome — Sat, 12 May 2012 04:58:12 -0400

It's ironic that in order to combat gayness, Mitt Romney became a hairdresser.

shelfofawesome — Fri, 11 May 2012 19:28:54 -0400

It's ironic that in order to combat gayness, Mitt Romney became a hairdresser.

I totally forgive Mitt Romney

shelfofawesome — Fri, 11 May 2012 14:43:56 -0400

He wrote about how he had to “apologize” for “several” of his classmates and himself finding a man in highschool, a Mr. Lauber, and holding him down and cutting his bleached blonde hair off. It wasn’t because of Mr. Lauber’s perceived homosexuality, no! It was just a few highschool “pranks and hijinks” that went too far. And you know how Jesus felt about long hair.

Oh Mitt Romney! Haha you’re so hilarious. I sure would have known how you meant those pranks to be perceived. And who could blame you 40 some years after the incidents where you physically assaulted that Mr. Lauber who was clearly asking for it with his non-conformity? It was clearly just a miscommunication and I’m sure he made certain to conform to the expected norms after that. You helped him socially!

Maybe he used his all-American charm to seduce that young slutty man, like in the bible! Samson and Delilah! Except homoerotic. Oh Mitt, following along in the Bible I see.

So I totally forgive him. He tried his best to help this young man, and now he’s just being torn down for it.

You know what you have to do when it’s all men. That’s just natural. I wonder what other things he did in that all male high school. I wonder what those pillowy lips that now wrap themselves around Conservative dogma once wrapped themselves around when he was surrounded by other young men.

And that comment where he shouted “Atta girll!” at another male student in the all male high school in Detroit? He wasn’t being homophobic. He was being trans* positive! Before his time, even! ^^ What a goooooood citizen.

Mitt Romney, if I wanted to be represented by Asshole-Americans, would be my go-to man! He would surely represent me the fullest. He’d keep my culture and viewpoints in mind and it would be lovely.

Unfortunately… ;; I’m a Liberal and he’s just an asshole who can go fuck off, male or female, for all I care. I’m young still, but I don’t think the horrific things that happened to ME in high school will be off my mind any time soon. Clearly, such was the case for Mr. Lauber. when you’re tossed down stairs like me, or held down and cut like Mr. Lauber, you don’t just forgive and forget.

You might forgive. But if your bully asshole classmates run for political office… You remember. You remeber real well.

beatricethegolden: nanner: tesseralharmonics: the2ndsaint: pa...

shelfofawesome — Fri, 11 May 2012 02:52:56 -0400

beatricethegolden:

nanner:

tesseralharmonics:

the2ndsaint:

pati79:

jadelyn:

sonneillonv:

autumn-and-eve:

erinsmomma:

How can someone stand behind abortion, when you have a life inside of you that God created for you? How can you say that this life isn’t worth it? If you can’t take care of the baby for whatever circumstances than there is always adoption available to couples who can’t conceive, but still want the joy of being parents. OPEN YOUR EYES! God has bigger plans for us all that we don’t even realize the picture.

Excuse me but it appears your baby is actually upside down
Did you take Sex Ed freshman year because babies come out headfirst

Hi, OP! As someone who was given up for adoption, allow me to call bullshit on your little post there! You see, when I was adopted, I was a white-skinned, healthy, neurotypical infant, which basically put me at the top of the list, right underneath white-skinned, healthy, neurotypical MALE infants! There’s only one kind of infant people wanted to adopt more than me! I was SOOO lucky! But if you actually bothered to look at the information readily available on the interwebs, you would be aware that the majority of people who are forced to rely on abortion for family planning are poor people and people of color. Of course, those two demographics intersect, thanks to the institutionalized racism of our society! Neat huh?!

Of course, even babies of color are not in high demand with couples looking to adopt. Many who do want to adopt outside their race choose to go outside the country, where laws are less strict and the process is often less expensive. Of course, most of the infants adopted this way are obtained in unscrupulous fashion, but who cares about that when you’re saving a little Korean or African baby from the horrible fate of growing up in Korea or Africa??? And all those children who have birth defects, are born with diseases or disabilities, or have other issues… WELL. Who wants to invest that kind of expense and time? Why would you adopt someone broken, LOLOL?!

Granted, there are some wonderful people who understand the system a little better, and make it a point to try and give POC and disabled children a good home. But they make up a very small fraction of potential adopters! This difference in supply and demand leaves a lot of children stuck in the foster system, where their chances of being adopted diminish with every passing year, and their chances of being physically or sexually abused INCREASE! Isn’t that wonderful?

And of course, we haven’t even talked about the person who is giving birth to the baby! I know you probably think pregnancy is a wonderful, happy time, and for some people it is, but it is also one of the greatest health risks a person can take. I love my son very much, and from the day I found out I was pregnant with him, I wanted him! But I also nearly died giving birth to him. You see, I had pre-eclampsia, the most commonly fatal birth complication in the world. My blood pressure was 180 over 130! At twenty-two years old, I was actually headed for a stroke, hah hah! How funny is that? And all it took was missing a single pre-natal appointment during which my blood pressure rose to dangerous levels and my body tried to kill both me and my son. Those seizures sure were fun, as was the emergency c-section performed without anesthetic! And being chained down while the operation was performed, because I was delirious and wouldn’t stop trying to fight off the doctors, that was a BLAST! It was great for my husband too, since he almost lost his wife and child in just forty-five minutes. You can imagine how thrilled he is at the prospect of me ever getting pregnant again. Babies are certainly cute, but pregnancy can have massive health complications, and I know it’s such a bummer, but they are PERMANENT. :( My abdominal muscles never recovered from being hacked through with a scalpel, and the flood of hormones caused by late pregnancy have changed things from heartburn (never used to have it, now, all the time!) to my emotional reactions (I cry when I see pictures of kittens now. I used to be tough). These are changes I did not ask for, cannot control, and cannot fix! And many people go through worse! I know, right? Unbelievable, but go look up the word ‘episiotomy’ and then look up ‘birth rape’ and I’m afraid you’ll find some stuff that just isn’t very shiny. Plus, the studies actually show that people who carry a baby to term, give birth, then give it up for adoption suffer HIGHER rates of post-pregnancy complications like post-partum depression and post-partum psychosis, general depression, and other mental health issues. Adoption actually isn’t good for the person giving birth at all!

I’m afraid the picture you chose to use there is also pretty disingenuous. I know, I know, it seems like nitpicking. I’m not trying to be mean! :( But that picture shows a fully developed, viable infant, and most abortions are performed when the fetus isn’t even a fetus - it’s a blastocyst. That’s just a clump of cells. Seriously! You can totally find pictures on the interwebs and they’re not even gross, LOLOL! Later-term abortions are usually performed because of health complications, though some of our intrepid state legislators are trying to change all that! They care so much about people who are pregnant, you see, that they want to force them to carry dead or dying fetuses inside them until their body either becomes infected while it rots in their tummies (this is called sepsis, and it makes people very sick, and can even kill them!), or forces it out naturally in a gush of blood and fluids! Isn’t that so caring of them? I’m so glad they’re around to make those decisions for me! And if a pregnant person is not allowed to terminate an unviable fetus, in some states, they have to carry the child to term, give birth to it, and then watch it die in their arms because its lungs weren’t developed, or its brain formed outside its skull, or any of a million possible birth defects that will kill you just as quick as lickity-split! Isn’t that wild?! Of course, these people go through terrible grief, and as I mentioned, some of them may get sick and die from not being able to abort dead or dying fetuses. But I guess that’s just A-okay with you, huh?

Basically, I think before you suggest adoption as a universal alternative, you should actually go do some research on adoption. And before you condemn abortion, you should do some research on abortions - not the stuff your church is giving you, the stuff the real doctors are saying. Go to Planned Parenthood (if they haven’t all been closed down, ROFLMAO!) and request whatever information they have on the process, the statistics of who has abortions and why… and actually, all of that is on the interwebs! Isn’t technology AMAZING?

And in closing, since I’ve been asked this question many times and I know it’s coming? Yes, I realize I am here talking to you because I was not aborted. But the thing is, if my mother had chosen abortion, I wouldn’t know the difference, so it wouldn’t matter to me. And if she decided that choice was best for her, then that choice would have been best for her, and I would never want to take that choice away from her. As it is, since I was given up for adoption, and since I have seen the statistics on how badly people who give their children up for adoption suffer, I have spent much of my adult life worrying about her, whether she’s healthy, whether she’s okay, and feeling that if she did suffer from any of the common post-birth symptoms, it is at least partially my fault, even though she made that decision on her own. Which is silly, I know, but at some point, all children have to stare down the consequences of their parents’ having them. For some, that’s poverty. For others, a life-time of their parents struggling to treat and care for a severe illness or disability. For others, it’s wondering if their mother ever got over giving them away, and wishing you could reach out and assure her that it’s okay, she doesn’t have to be haunted.

May your birth control never fail!

I’ll give them credit for the edit. But couldn’t they bother to make it a bit more realistic? Like the baby head down, or using a less than 4 month old baby???

That response is the most beautiful thing I’ve ever read.

Reblogged for sonneillonv’s commentary.

This takedown is a work of ART.

Hey how about not getting pregnant!

There’s also something called an open adoption where you can have contact and such with the kid

Hahaha oh hey how about not getting pregnant!

Gee, that sure is helpful!

Let’s ignore all of the really intelligent reply above and just shame women for having sex! LOL! Good job!

See, the thing about “Hey how about not getting pregnant” is that it assumes the woman chose this. Not even that she intended to get pregnant (many women who go in to get abortions go in AFTER a main method of contraception failed and they KNOW they cannot have/do not want a child) but that she had sex!

What a slut, right? Yeah, she was having sex with a dude, and really, she should know what happens when she spreads her legs! Oh boy!

Oh you know what’s funny though? Rape! LMAO! Oh wait, uh, no it’s not. It’s not funny at all. But see, even if it’s not funny (it’s not and joking about it contributes to normalization of rape culture) the body doesn’t give a shit that you didn’t want it. The body gets pregnant anyway! That sure is a bummer!

I was raped by my father from the time I was 8 onto when I was 12. :(

It sucked a lot. I got my period when I was 13. I sure was lucky that he wasn’t able to rape me when I was 13, or I might have gotten pregnant! And my mom knew what he was doing and blamed me, and abortion is murder!!!!!!! so I would have just been shamed as a slut and labeled bad and told I deserved what I got! Wouldn’t that have been fun?

Oh that happened, by the way! When I was 15 I moved away and when I was 16 I visited my best friend back in my town I’d lived in. And he raped me on the day I had to go back home on the plane to my mom’s! And he told me that i deserved it and I got what I needed! It was really fun sorting through that.

Funny thing about slut shaming, which you did definitely in the above comment, is that you don’t know how they got pregnant. But when judgmental people see them pregnant and planning to get an abortion, or planning to have the baby adopted, or planning to carry to term without someone they’re married to, they tend to do horrible things like assume the worst of them.

That really doesn’t contribute to the mental health and well-being of the mother. And your flippant comment that goes along the lines of don’t spread your legs and you won’t get pregnant? That’s not taking any of the beautiful commentary above into account. In fact, that’s basically glossing over all of the things and shrugging your shoulders because who gives a fuck about pregnant ladies who don’t intend to keep the babies? Sluts, whores, bitches, no one cares about them right? Hahah.

Oh boy.

And so you can see your kid in open adoption. Let’s talk about open adoption for a moment, shall we?

My friend in high school was a slut :( and everyone hated her for having sex and messing up on birth control, even though it was the man’s fault for taking off the condom in the middle in a dark room. But he didn’t get in trouble! Hehehe, he was just sowing his seeds!

And she got pregnant, I said that, right? Yeah, she got pregnant and she wanted to have a baby, but she was only a Sophomore. Whore! >:(

And she wasn’t going to have an abortion, though it would have been her right to choose if she wanted to have one. Instead, she chose open adoption! And she chose to be allowed to see her baby! Her beautiful baby, but the baby was only a baby once it was outside of the womb, you see. Inside of the mother, it is a fetus. That’s one of the things that OP neglected to mention, but I’m sure that was just a slip up, everyone makes mistakes!

And so she did an open adoption, and since her child was white and beautiful and from a better off family (her dad was a sheriff in our town!) the baby got adopted quickly, even though there were a lot of kids looking for homes. Babies are the only ones that go quickly, you see, and only as stated above-when they’re white! Because racism is a thing :(.

And the adoptive parents were sweet and loving and nice to her. Until they had the baby for sure. And while they had an agreement allowing her to see her baby, they would make it as difficult as possible. And every time she went there, it was painful to her. In the end, after about 2 years of this, she couldn’t take it anymore and she stopped going to see her child because by that point the parents had all but cancelled her out of their baby’s life. Isn’t that sad?

But that’s how it can work.

Just because open adoption might work, doesn’t mean you can just say one line and negate all of the criticisms of adoption for those who would abort that was made above. You’re pretty much terrible if you can actually read through all that was written and still say your judgmental bullshit.

not-homophobic-but: [Image description: a Twitter update from a...

shelfofawesome — Wed, 09 May 2012 04:49:27 -0400

not-homophobic-but:

[Image description: a Twitter update from a user whose name is illegible. The update reads, “People are homophobic, and they’re assholes about it. That’s not right, but being an asshole to those people won’t help either.”

End description.]

No.

If someone protests your right to exist, you shouldn’t just smile and nod and tell them it’s ok, you respect their right to disagree with your RIGHT TO EXIST.

I don’t act poorly to those who don’t treat me like shit, but the simple act of being homophobic is treating me like shit and telling me that I am unsafe around them. I will fight back and let them know EXACTLY where I stand.

My silence could cost me something much higher than someone who might get their feelings hurt by me being an ‘asshole’ to them.

My voice does help.

"Did you catch that? For Dr. Land – and surely for many of us who share his privileged position – it..."

shelfofawesome — Tue, 08 May 2012 22:16:08 -0400

“Did you catch that? For Dr. Land – and surely for many of us who share his privileged position – it is a myth that threads of racism still run through our country. I wonder how Dr. Land would explain why in my state of Illinois almost 90 percent of those sentenced to prison for drug use are African American; this despite the relatively equal drug use among white and black people. And, apart from ongoing racial injustice, how are we to understand the tragedy that in many cities young black men are more likely to go to prison than to college? Or that 80 percent of the black male workforce in my city faces the crushing weight of a felony conviction?”

- Trayvon, Dr. Land, & the “Myth” of Racism (via azspot)